The Conscious Parent: Transforming Ourselves, Empowering Our Children

Dr. Shefali offers a new paradigm of parenting in The Conscious Parent. If you are ready to step aside from power struggles and the antiquated days of a hierarchical parent-child relationship, this book is for you. If you are ready to experience your children as special agents on your spiritual journey, this book is your gospel. Becoming a conscious parent is all about the becoming. It is the transformation from our unconscious habits and patterns, inherited by our families of origin and embedded from our cultural norms. Becoming is an act of awareness, an intention, and a conscious choice to mindful living and raising our children. The greatest concept of the book is that through transforming ourselves, we empower our children. As counter-intuitive as it may seem, the real focus of conscious parenting is on the parents, not the children. When parents are able to accept their emotions and live authentically, it is natural for the children to do the same. Conscious parenting is raising ourselves so we are better able to help raise our children. The intention of conscious parenting is to accept full responsibility for ourselves and eliminate the need to control the outcome of our children. It is a conscious choice to replace shame and blame with understanding. Through understanding, we free ourselves and our children to live authentically. Through a combination of personal experiences, client stories, and clinical research, Dr. Shefali shares the human component and natural tendencies of parenting. The book is easy to read and relate to. The Consciousness Compass is a series of questions to guide us along the path of consciousness. This excerpt is a summary of the book and the shift in consciousness. *It is we who teach our children how to be greedy by giving them diamonds instead of sticks and stones *It is we who teach our children how to fear adventure by rewarding their successes and reprimanding their failures *It is we who teach our children how to lie to us by getting angry with them when they tell us the truth *It is we who teach our children how to be mean and violent to others by disregarding their emotions and denying them unconditional acceptance *It is we who teach our children to lose their motivation and zeal by pressuring them to excel and "be something" *It is we who teach our children to dishonor us by pushing them to be who they are not *It is we who teach our children to be bullies by dominating their spirit and silencing their voice *It is we who teach our children to be confused and overwhelmed by giving them all things external, but few tools to look internally *It is we who teach our children to be inattentive and distracted by inundating their lives with busy activities, leaving no space for stillness *It is we who teach our children to live their life looking outward by spending our time and energy on our own looks and acquisitions *It is we who teach our children to disrespect us by not stopping them the first time they are disrespectful and every time after *It is we who teach our children to be defiant by not knowing how to lay down the rules and mean business when we do *It is we who teach our children to know shame by shaming their spirits and judging them constantly *It is we who teach our children to become anxious by denying the celebration of our own present as we constantly focus on tomorrow *It is we who teach our children not to like themselves by constantly categorizing their emotions as those we approve of and those we don't *It is we who teach our children not to trust the world by betraying them every time we don't see who they are in their essence *It is we who teach our children how to love or not love by the extent to which we love or don't love ourselves. We are on this journey together, as parents and in relation to our children. Mindful living and conscious parenting is a means to transform ourselves and empower our children. This book is a great parenting tool to raise our awareness above that which keeps us from loving unconditionally and living whole-heartedly.

It's awesome I'm going to buy a second for my adult child. He's having a baby. A little girl with my lovely daughter in law in May 2026. I just sent her a what to expect when your expecting revised 2025 8 think. I bought it because I saw machine gun kelly in an interview in a garage with dude. He said it's what's made him a conscious parent. So I said if it fixes idiot 😂 just kidding. He's cool. Will all gotta grow up sometime. We all make mistakes in our youth. I super crazy. My kids soan from the ages 30 down to 6. I have 5. So I was impressed 😁. Must read

I purchased this book as a gift for my sister who is a new mom. I knew she would gain some great insight on how to parent obviously by the title of the book more consciously :-) help her understand her little ones and approach parenting a bit differently then our parents and our culture has. once I received the book I read small pieces of the book here and there trying not to crease the pages or the cover. so lets say I read it gently. :-) as I read the pages I could not put the book down and almost did not give her the gift as promised! I resorted to wrapping her book up and purchasing the book again, this time however, for myself! and although my children are not small toddlers, it still has helped me gain a better perspective and when my children act out a certain way, instead of acting quickly, I take a moment to think of what would be the best solution/action/response. instead of reacting I have learned to respond. It has made us all (my children and I) approach it all in a way that works amazingly for us all. I recommend this book for anyone who is trying to start a family, a family of small children and even teenagers. This book will change the way you look at your life, your family and environment. hands down one of the best parenting books I have ever read!

I agree with the Author's way of learning to slow down and take your time when speaking with your children. I am very happy I read this.

Great read for those who have been through trauma and are parenting. This helped me a lot and broke down a lot of aspects to how our minds work.

This book has opened my eyes to the different light children and parents can shed on each other! Everything in this book was intriguing. I can’t wait to read more by this author

I am almost half way through this book. I still wanted to find the time to write a review. I have a 2 year old and a 9 month old so I don't know when I will finish it. If you want to do better and be a better parent this book is a great start. I plan to give my children the absolute best of me. I believe this book is a map on how to get there. I saw Dr. Tsabary on the Oprah Life Class. I ordered the book that same night. For any person that wants to elevate themselves and their family this is a perfect read. My goal is to stay out of my children's way. My goal is to remove my fears and allow their visions to come to life. This book is a great recipe for my goals. This is a great gift for a new parent.

Get ready for some self-examination with this book. You'll be thinking about why YOU were chosen to parent THIS specific human. I love this book. You will grow your ideas about parenting to include your spiritual beliefs and how that impacts how you parent. It's a great gift for expectant parents. I've gifted it to 2 couples so far and they LOVED it.

This is the first parenting book I’ve read, which truly describes the journey of parenthood. I’ve read many books - but they often focus on the behaviour of children and how to manage that, OR how to BE a ‘good’ parent. But for me this books goes way beyond that, and gets to a much deeper level. It illuminates what I’ve experienced , and allows me to feel less alone. It also expands my understanding and search for meaning into the spiritual journey that happens when your life changes and you become a parent/guardian of a young person. I have now begun reading The Awakened Family and already I’m excited and uplifted by what I’m reading. These books offer the stripped back essence of parenting, the fundamental values of what it means to be in service to our children, and also the immensity of that responsibility. If you know in your heart that your children are your equal, that they are here to teach you something profound, and that your hearts desire is to do the best thing for them Spiritually, then this is your book.

Absolutely great book ! Best parenting book I have ever read - although I will admit I'm not a 'parenting book' reader, this one is incredible. I highly encourage this book to all parents - it's brilliant. Your child will likely thank you in the future as a close & healthy honest relationship between parent and child is a strength that carries on throughout life. It would be so great if much of this books' content was taught to high school kids as this book contains healthy ways of thinking that apply to all ages, from childhood to adult. Highly recommend.

Shefali te abre los ojos siempre que estés dispuesto a tener autocritica y cambiar tu mismo para tener una mejor relación con tus hijos

Surprisingly good.

This great book changed my entire perspective on parenting . Few chapters in I was to already transformed. I would recommend it to anyone who’s experiencing trouble parenting it’s a good book.