The Manual: What Women Want and How to Give It to Them

I recently stumbled into the art of "pick-up" (or PUA for short), starting with Neil Strauss' "The Rules of the Game" and moving on through a few other authors and gurus. What appealed to me was not so much the idea of scoring with tons of hot chicks (although that's a pleasant idea) but learning to more confident with women in general. Like many others, no one ever taught me what women really look for in a man or how to successfully interact with them. Many PUA materials have some great advice on improving one's game but often suggest gimmicks like wearing outlandish clothing, telling stories or spewing out rehearsed material, doing magic tricks, ignoring or putting down the woman you want, etc. -- in other words, approaching a woman in an indirect manner or in a way totally unrelated to your true intentions. To me, this always seemed just plain wrong, so I remained unconvinced by most of these books. Then I learned about this book. Admittedly, I was daunted by the book's high selling price (it came out to nearly $40 with tax and S&H) without the availability of a cheaper Kindle version, as well as the high number of 5-star reviews written by people who did not review anything else. Yet many of the 5-star reviews were also composed by legitimate customers, so I went ahead and bought it. I figured that I didn't have much to lose. $40 is a small price to pay if it means obtaining some useful information that will last over the long run. I just finished reading the book last night, and thankfully, it's well worth the money. The book is about 350 pages long and packed full of great info with no fluff or pointless digression. Anton gets right to the point on every page and details what he thinks are the most important ideas for a man to know. As the sultry cover suggests, "The Manual" serves primarily as a guide to seducing women into a relationship (which, let's not mince words, is what dating women is about whether or not it's towards a strictly physical connection or something more long-term), but it also includes a more basic guideline on how to be more of a man at a time where men are increasingly losing their sense of "manliness." This book, paired with Robert Glover's "No More Mr. Nice Guy," creates a powerful pair to restoring a man's masculine way of life. I must also state that Anton does not advocate any kind of "player" lifestyle. This book's subtitle ("What Women Want and How to Give It to Them") succinctly describes "The Manual's" primary goal: teaching men how to treat women the way that they actually want to be treated. Everybody wins. "The Manual" breaks down a lot of our society's preconceived notions about sex and relationships, presenting many ideas that I believe are true. A few of many, many ideas presented include the pointlessness of "earning" women through big bucks, career advancement, or athletic prowess; the importance of being confident, direct in your intentions, and responsible for the progression of the relationship; the power of body language and strong eye contact in communication; the importance of meeting your own needs rather than adopting a "people-pleasing" mindset; and what women want according to their biology rather than their socialization. If I had read this book when I was 15 instead of 25 like I am now, things would have gone far differently for me in the decade between. This book is useful when it comes to interacting with anybody, not just women. I have already become more assertive at work and less concerned with gaining the approval of others overall, which has been a welcome change. My only qualm with this book comes from Anton's advice that a man should ignore whether or not the woman he's pursuing is already taken or married. I suppose that this is my socialization talking, but I feel very strongly about such matters. Anton's rationalization is that it is up to the woman to make this decision, and that if she was being treated the way she wanted to by her man, she would not be unfaithful. I admit that I agree a great deal with this assessment, but the fact that Anton has indirectly admitted that he has bedded taken women still lowers my respect for him a notch. Otherwise, "The Manual" is a very powerful book full of great advice that would serve any man well in his dealings with women and would serve any woman well in an attempt to learn more about her gender really works. I'm glad that I purchased it, and I intend to re-read chapters of this book every couple of nights to keep the material fresh in my mind for years to come.

This book espouses surprisingly well done, useful methodology for which a man can learn to understand certain particulars of attraction. One of the greatest aspects of this work is that a person will learn to see the world of relationships as a set of interactions that are based on a certain set of principles perpetuating either the movement towards a successful sexual interaction or away from. What the author offers is a deeper understanding of the manner in which a man could both view the world as well as how he could act to maximize his attractiveness. While I have no intention of completely outlining Anton's philosophy in this review, it may be helpful to highlight a few philosophies that he introduces in order for potential buyers to decide if this book will suit their needs: - Attractiveness vs. Technique: "The Manual" concerns itself with acting in an attractive manner and handling interactions with women in a way that dramatically increases ones ability to influence situations in ones favor. As such, it promotes attitudes and behavioral patterns that make a surprisingly vast majority of women to view a man as highly attractive. In following the authors advice, suddenly there will be a pool of readily available women whom desire to be with you. This gives a man options and a supply of partners. What the book is NOT is a collection of techniques designed to manipulate certain reactions out of women. So, you won't find any explicit tactics to get a specific girl or personality type but rather will develop a means to have numerous attractive women as sexual partners, romantic lovers, etc. Simply put, there will be enough beautiful girls in your life that you won't be concerned about devoting resources to getting a specific woman. Such a distinction I feel is necessary because many young men who seek out dating advice are looking to "get" a particular person they might have strong feelings for and this might not offer any "PUA technique" to address a specific need. However, for those who have outgrown this stage of their lives will greatly appreciate having instead many women attracted to them due to their behavior. - The concept of Responsibility: An interesting line of thought as presented in the book, this is a very useful principle that has use outside of the context of attracting women as well. Many people go through life in a sort of "in between" state of indecisiveness concerning most things. Women are no different and are apt to do this in the world of dating and sex as well. Extrapolating further on this point, women rarely have a hardline concerning men that they will either find a man a.) hideously unattractive, never having a chance with her or b.) so attractive that she will have sex with him within a minute of meeting him. Instead, given an unaltered state of mind, she is apt to operate within a spectrum of considering men along a range. Knowing this, there is a tendency to think of the possibility of a man as a prospective lover as a series of "maybes." Maybe I'll date him, maybe I'll let him kiss me, maybe I'll see him as a potential mate, etc. The concept of responsibility, as outline in this book, allows for a man to direct this ambiguity towards making a choice to meet his desires. Those maybes become: I'm going on a date with him, he's kissing me, he is my mate, etc. A tremendous concept when applied the way he teaches it that personally found to be key in having women become attracted to me and becoming very sexual very quickly. Internal Factors - The author spends a lot of time offering a different perspective on how a man should potentially view the world. Though largely his opinion, this section of the book would benefit a lot of people and really is a collection of solid advice a father might give to his son. Encouraging a sense of selfishness and audacity may be counter to what society wants, but the author explains how such factors, normally viewed as a negative, can be useful for an individual. I wanted to address a few concerns some people have stated in other reviews and answer them as I see it in order to help buyers decide for themselves if this book is for them. First, some feel his ideas are pseudo-science. Frankly I don't disagree but his stuff works. I mean there's a lot of resources out there for men looking to get woman but this book's concepts actually work. Somehow those trying to question the academic and scientific basis for Anton's work might appear as if they have not tried to apply the principles but rather just studied the book as if it were a textbook rather than a book of advice. The second criticism that seems to occur is that the author at times discusses the fact that some married women will cheat on their husbands. I think personally (just my opinion) to critique this book for its lack of morality guidelines is somewhat not properly reviewing the book based on what it is designed to do. "The Manual" shows you how to understand attraction not place an ethical compass on your life. One of the reasons I think the author does mention married women is because men who learn to attract women later in life (i.e. mid 20s and up) rather than those who are naturally attractive are surprised by the amount of committed women who will easily sleep around and do so guilt free. In the few years I have applied the principles of the book, it was almost heartbreaking for me to see how many women will claim to be sexually conservative, loyal to their husbands, not willing to have sex on the first date, etc. who will seek an attractive man out and have sex with him. There is almost an unspoken understanding that goes on in the world where women simply need to ensure that the world thinks of them as angelic like (i.e. loyal wives, perfect girlfriends, non-promiscuous) yet alone and in private are willing to have sex within a very short time of meeting an attractive man. To be completely forthcoming, I've almost given up on the idea that there are truly loyal women out there any more because these days it seems like the vast majority of beautiful women in committed relationships are very good at establishing and maintaining a façade of their positive qualities to their significant others and social circles while hiding the fact that they still routinely seek out sexual gratification unbeknownst to these people. So I will never feel it is my right to judge or tell others how to live their lives morally, but I think that men who have mastered attraction come to view such things as marriage and engagements as anachronisms of past traditions that very few women actually still adhere to since a majority of them are very willing to have relationships with other men despite being a wife or girlfriend. Another criticism of the book is the lack of "new material." I think this is untrue its just that Anton presents behavioral principles to follow rather than explicit techniques. People looking for those specific techniques might be better off looking at some of the PUA books out there or maybe even looking on Google to get what they want. Hope this review was helpful.

I have been in this topic of Pick-Up for almost a year now. Before anyone reads this book or any other book about seduction or "Game", I highly recommend Neil Strauss' "The Game". This books is great in the sense that it will lay down the fundamentals of many subjects about Game: Mentality, Inner Game, Social Conditioning etc. You wont find a cheesy pick-up line, or a "method" like other Game related books say so (trust me I've read plenty) This book really helped me get my new "Social" lifestyle started. The results are truly showing after 4 months of reading it. Overall; A great read to get yourself started in Game or to simply destroy the social conditioning you have had til now

Awesome book, I couldn't quite believe the many positive reviews on here and really now I understand them all. It seemed almost too good to be true based on what some reviewers had said. However, it really lived up to the hype and I got massive value from this book. There is almost no practical how to advice on how to approach or what to say etc which is where this book's strength lies. Instead you are presented with a philosophy which once understood and adopted will shape all of your behaviours naturally. Once you start truly understanding and believing this stuff on a personal level you really can feel the difference in the way you view the world and the way you interact with the women you find in it. And when thinking over my successes/failures with women in the past I could pinpoint specific behaviours that were either in line or not with the ideas in this book which gave me the ability to truly understand why I got the girl or not. I just wish I had this book when I was 17 and I'd recommend it to any young man trying to improve their life and mindset. Brilliant book. My only criticism for the author would be that some sentences are worded poorly on the Kindle format and so you have to read them once or twice for them to read properly. It doesn't detract from the book's message but could make the book even better.

I have read nearly a half dozen other titles of this genre, and some of them I found useful, most I found less so, and the ones I found useful are along the same lines as this book. But I just couldn’t bring myself to believe in a lot of “techniques” that these other people were advocating; i.e. I do not want to dress outrageously or do other things like magic tricks or psychic readings to create attraction with a woman. Whether it works or not, I have no interest in that. The basic premise of this book is much more worth while: reset your basic attitude and mindset to its more natural state, so that you can be the man you were meant to be, the one women want. Actually, after reading this book over and over again I have rethought a lot of things in my life, and it’s been a real load off my mind. I don’t feel that I should start pursuing women when I have done such and such (in perfect shape, rich & famous etc) I can now be much more proactive than that, I will go out and look for women I desire greatly. The author does a smashing job of giving a fairly simplified scientific model of how and why humans are attracted to one another, as those are instincts that serve the survival of our genes, and these instincts are in large part genetic. His explanations are great and are based on real life examples so it makes the principals very believable and clear. The psychological insights the author shares are great, and they are clear thinking and clear cut. There are other good reads, but if you focus on this book alone and internalize the new mindset, you will turn yourself back into the man that society has repressed. Don’t let it go on!

I read a lot of this kind of book and this one is very interesting even if I don't share all the ideas. It is still a very good way to learn how to be around women and with them. it will teach you that women shouldn't be your priority but in fact it is yourself. It sounds selfish but it is true, does your girlfriend is your lover or your hostage or is it the other way around. Very good book if you are in couple or single. Good reading to all of you!

One of the best! A abordagem do autor fundamentando-se em referenciais teóricos e práticos torna a leitura muito estimulante, um dos melhores livros da área, sem dúvidas! Recomendadíssimo para quem deseja melhorar na interação com as FEMININE FEMALES. Boa leitura!