Introverts in Love: The Quiet Way to Happily Ever After

Excellent book. Thank you!

This book is okay in its overall description of introverts in love. It's a good start. A far more complex, detailed and and clarifying book is: Intimacy and Type by Jane Hardy Jones and Ruth Sherman.

I bought the book for my partner to read so he can get some insights. Which it does provide, however no scientific research was done by the author so the analysis and conclusions are a bit tentative.

Recomiendo este libro a todos los introvertidos que creen que tienen que convertirse en extrovertidos obligatoriamente para poder tener una relación amorosa. No es así por mucho que quieran haceros creer lo contrario. Lo importante es estar a gusto en tu propia piel; y eres suficientemente bueno siendo introvertido. No os dejeis convencer de lo contrario, porque eso os hará sentiros inseguros; y eso para um hombre es el obstaculo real, no la introversión. Lo que no me cabe en la cabeza es que la idea que aparece en este y otros libros no se publicó hasta el año 2008 mas o menos. Lástima porque los que ya tenemos una edad hubieramos agradecido leerlo hace muchos años.Y es una idea tan lógica que deja en pésimo lugar a los sicologos o escritores de autoayuda que antes de esta fecha rellenaron paginas con la idea contraria, cuando deberian saber estos "supuestos profesionales" que de la misma manera que una pera no puede ser una manzana; o un pez no puede escalar un arbol; tampoco un introvertido puede convertirse en extrovertido. Y de la misma manera que un pez no es menos bueno por no escalar un arbol, tampoco lo es un introvertido por ser fiel a sus genes. Lástima que tantos libros y tantos mensajes sociales no entendiesen esto.

Introverts in Love by Sophia Dembling, is a compact well written handbook for introverts and those who love us. Inside are pages of stories and lessons learned from what must have been years of research and interviews on almost every aspect of relationships, from where and how to meet, to what to do when communication breaks down and lines are drawn. In this book I was able to read things I have never been able to put to my own words. I was able to identify and give voice to times in my life where situations arose that ended in frustration. With the stories of others having the same issues and how they resolved them, I now I find it easier to avoid and deal with such situations as over stimulation and meltdown. For the non-introvert, the book shows how situations can trigger our defenses and what to do about them when it happens. It also talks about and explains by example of our need for quiet and solitude and how this should not be seen as pulling away from those we care about. Overall, it is a well thought out book with many excellent stories and explanations. I'd like to see a deeper more psychological followup but that's just my own curiousness.

I found the book informative and insightful. It gave examples of how and why introverts feel or act in certain situations. (I tend to be a little introverted myself, so could relate at times). It did help me to understand the world of introverts, their actions and to maybe not take things too personal. Met a friend online, who doesn’t want to chat on the phone, now I understand why (it’s not just me). I found other examples I could relate to as well. I’m not in a relationship, so all the examples of the married couples were a bit too much (so I just skimmed over those parts). Although, I could see them as helpful to couples. I would recommend this book to others. I read with Kindle-Unlimited.

I have to say this book is excellent. I am an outgoing guy, but I have introvert tendencies in terms of needing significant time to “regroup” and collect my thoughts. I underlined the crap out of this book as I saw so many facets of my own personality within the pages. Which feels really good - to realize it’s not just a “me” thing. The author writes in a casual, likable way that is endearing and enjoyable. This is one of the best relationship/self awareness books I’ve read. And I’m picky. Very picky.

Ended up not finishing the book. Ok but not great